Sharing is one of those early life lessons that sounds simple - but feels anything but when you’re watching two small children both reach for the same toy.
At Kids Academy, we understand that sharing and turn-taking are skills that develop gradually. Toddlers (1–3 years) are just beginning to understand the world beyond their own needs, while preschoolers/kindergarteners (3–5 years) are learning how to build friendships, cooperate, and show kindness.
Whether you’re a first-time parent or managing a busy household with multiple little learners, we’re here to help. Here’s how to support your child’s social growth - gently, patiently, and at their own pace.
Why Sharing Is So Challenging (and Completely Normal)
Young children aren’t trying to be difficult when they don’t want to share. For toddlers, saying “mine!” is developmentally normal. They’re still learning that other people have feelings too.
Preschool-aged children are further along, but turn-taking still takes effort - especially when emotions are high. The good news? With encouragement, role-modelling, and consistency, they can learn to wait their turn and share with others.
How to Encourage Sharing and Turn-Taking at Home
1. Start with Parallel Play
For toddlers, playing next to another child (rather than with them) is a great first step. Set up side-by-side activities like blocks, colouring, or stacking toys. It helps build comfort with others without pressure to share.
2. Use Clear and Calm Language
Talk your child through the moment with warmth and clarity:
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“Kai is using the scooter right now. When he’s done, it will be your turn.”
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“You shared your crayons with Sofia - how kind!”
This kind of modelling helps children learn the language of cooperation.
3. Try a Visual Timer
Preschoolers respond well to visible time cues. A sand timer, kitchen timer, or child-friendly app gives them reassurance that a turn is coming soon - helping reduce frustration and tears.
4. Acknowledge Efforts and Kindness
When you notice your child sharing or waiting their turn, say it out loud:
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“I saw you waited so patiently while Zoe had her turn - great job!”
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“That was really thoughtful, offering Amara a go with your puzzle.”
These little moments build confidence and reinforce positive behaviour.
5. Read Books That Explore Sharing
Storytime is a wonderful way to teach social skills. Try these favourites:
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Llama Llama Time to Share by Anna Dewdney
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Should I Share My Ice Cream? by Mo Willems
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Share and Take Turns by Cheri J. Meiners
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It’s Mine by the Quirky Kid Clinic
What Sharing Looks Like at Kids Academy
At Kids Academy, our educators use every opportunity - from mealtimes to playtime - to support social learning like turn-taking and cooperation.
Through our exclusive Lifelong Learning Curriculum, children are nurtured to become kind, confident learners. Social and emotional development is woven into every day, helping children build the skills they’ll use for life - like empathy, fairness, and working as a team.
Explore the Lifelong Learning Curriculum
Whether your child is just beginning to play near others or already enjoying shared games, we meet them where they are - and help them grow from there.
Navigating Different Ages and Stages?
If you have a toddler and a preschooler under the same roof, you already know - what works for one doesn’t always work for the other! While one might be learning to ask for a turn, the other might be figuring out how to let go.
At Kids Academy, we recognise and respect those different stages. Our programs and educators support each child’s unique journey, while creating shared routines that bring children together in meaningful ways.
Choosing a Centre That Supports Social Skills
Our centres are located across Australia, including in suburbs like Blacktown, Killara, Mickleham, Redbank Plains, Craigieburn, and Ringwood East. Families love our strong sense of community, and the way we focus on both learning and wellbeing.
If you’re searching for an early learning centre where your child can grow socially, emotionally, and academically - we’d love to meet you.
Final Thought
Learning to share is more than just taking turns with toys - it’s about learning how to connect with others. And like all great things, it starts small. With love, patience, and the right support, your child will grow into someone who plays kindly, communicates confidently, and understands the joy of giving.